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Originally Posted by Shriveled Muse
We tease each other sometimes like poking or tickling and there have been a few times when he brushed the hair out of my face. Sometimes I catch him looking at me. But he has also talked to me about other girls (not for a few months now though) and by gut feeling, I don't get the vibe that he cares about me or likes me more than a friend. In fact there have been times when he said that he doesn't care about me,... jokingly?
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For one, he obviously likes you. For another, I would highly recommend not to pose any serious questions to him - at least not now. Teasingly/jokingly you may ask any questions you want to ask, but as in "let us have a sit down conversation" with an earnest look in your eyes - no.
You and this guy are having a complex and subtle relationship. This relationship can go in many different ways. You and he have settled into a complex way of relating that includes gentle teasing. This stage should be allowed to run its course, with all the evolution naturally progressing.
I think that you are very inexperienced if you are unsure that a guy who brushes your hair out of your face likes you. This may mean two things:
- plain lack of experience, which should also be allowed to run its course without intervention
- some deep seated insecurity seeping through your doubts, and if that is the case, interventions are needed.
What do you think is it - just lack of experience or are you unsure of yourself so much at some level that the self-doubt gets the better of you and makes you discount obvious signs of his attraction to you, such as your catching him looking at you?
When he talked to you about other girls, it might have meant one of several things that immediately jump to mind plus a myriad others:
1) He doubts himself. He might feel worried that he is falling for you, and he might have built an artificial boundary around himself and presented himself as interested in other girls so that you would not think he was interested in you by way of protecting his feelings from the possibility of being rejected by you (yes, you have the power to reject him, and yes, he might be worried that you would).
That he stopped talking about other girls several months ago is consistent with the hypothesis above - if he became more certain that he is attracted to you, he might have wanted that artificial barrier to disappear.
2) He is interested in several girls at once.
2a) ... and he wanted you to help him make his choice
3) He was testing your reaction
4) He was teasing you.
That he jokes, teases, and even says that he does not care about you jokigly is consistent with the hypothesis (4) above.
I am not willing to make bets, but if I absolutely had to, I would say that a combination of (1) and (4) were at play.
Good luck and keep us posted.