I have only really experienced one death that seems to trigger on the anniversary date of that death...I don't have the words right now - just wanted to let you know that I read your post and feel for you...

I see you are fairly new - so welcome to PC - there will most likely be someone who has a closer experience then I do that can give you some suggestions.

Are you talking to someone professionally about this? (I haven't read any of your posts to see if you already answered this)