I don't want to get preachy, but this is what I have discovered for myself about this. No human being, therapist or not, will be able to give us all love and care we want no matter how caring and loving they may be. Human beings are limited by design and none of them can be The Source of the other one's happiness. When I realized that, I stopped searching for yet another human who can compensate me for everything I've been deprived of. I no longer chase the dream where someone can become an ultimate solution for all my life's problems because that dream is an illusion. The only thing I regret is that I wasted too many years of my life on this fantasy while I could've been doing many other things that could've made me happier and more fulfilled. I get what I need from my spiritual part and that's why I am not obsessed with relationships. That's not to say that I don't value relationships with certain people because I absolutely do. I am happy to have certain people in my life, but they are not the center of the universe for me and I don't place my happiness into their hands or anyone's hands.