Thanks to both of you.

I didn't write the whole story because I don't think it really matters. What I'm sick of is myself. My ex boyfriend used to give me the silent treatment every few months cause he knew it really works on me. Whenever my mother is mad at me, she just stays silent for days and days until I apologize. I have this issue with silence. I just go crazy when people stop talking to me. And I believe that's the biggest problem.

On the other hand, I need your advice now. So I think it's time to tell the whole story.

This guy is the brother of a friend of mine who thought we could make a nice couple. I was reluctant to meet this guy and he was so quiet when we met, that I thought he was nice but I was not sure of anything else. One thing I knew is that he made me laugh. Then he friended me on facebook and we started chatting. He told me a lot of things, he opened up very easily and he felt comfortable with me. He even confessed that he has a mild autism and that he has a rough time making friends. Everything was so good we went out for about two months.

At some point we were discussing something that made us feel awkward. Then he didn't text me and I didn't text him so five days passed and finally he asked me if I was mad at him. Turns out it was just a misunderstanding. And now I'm hoping this is a misunderstandig too. But last friday I asked him if I did something to upset me, but then I unsinstalled viber, so I don't know if he responded. Still, there are other chat apps we have so he could have said something...

Last time we really talked everything was fine, I believe. Then he didn't answer for two days until friday I asked him if there was something wrong, but besides uninstalling viber, I told him that I had no time for dramas or issues, but I didn't explain why... I was at the hospital. I could barely breathe and I just wanted him to tell me everything was fine to feel a little bit better.

Now I don't know what to do. I'm not really good at decision making. I know I can text him but I also know that it might hurt me or even reinforce some behavour. I know I can keep silent and wait for him to miss me enough to give me a text or even a call. I must confess I'm very influenced by my ex boyfriend's constant silent treatment. I know that when a guy doesn't talk to me I become obsessed and then is when I mess things up. I want to do things differently this time. What do you think my ex boyfriend would have done if I hadn't got too desperate whenever he gave me the silent treatment?

I need to stop being such a good victim of this kind of punishment...