Hi Fem, I agree with Itlredvett, that your husband is probably addicted to porn, cyberporn in particular. The erection problem is symptomatic, so is the drop off in intimacy, so is sitting in front of the computer for 3-4 hours (that you know of,) and secrecy.

This addiction is very serious and can wreck your lives, steal your time, wreck your finances, etc. Do NOT take it lightly. It is a Tough Addiction to break. Get help thru a therapist that deals specifically with sex addiction.

There are a couple of sites that may be of help to you: www.understandingsexualaddiction.org., www.cybersexualaddiction.com , www.secretaddictions.com to name sites. There are good links there to other resources at these sites.

Good luck.

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