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Old Dec 16, 2014, 06:38 PM
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To me, it almost sounds like she was trying to make sure she was 100% focused... especially if you were a bit scattered and rushed, you may have been throwing a lot of information at her all at once, with lots of random bits, and she might have been trying to really make sure she was catching all of it. That would be my guess, especially if she's normally a good T. But, by all means - ask her! These little moments can really be enlightening, both into what T is thinking, and what you're thinking.

At my last session, I can't remember what I was trying to explain, but my T looked a little bored. I don't think it was so much *bored*, as much as I tend to be very precise and detailed, and I don't think he's that way at all. So I think he gets a little impatient, maybe, when I want to include lots of details in something I'm talking about. I asked him! (This was big for me, I usually have trouble noticing stuff like that and responding in the moment.) It was actually pretty automatic, not at all coming from an "I'm offended" place - but more like if you see someone's not following, and you want to check with them if it's too many details.

I must have said something like, "uh oh, are you ok?" And he said "yep, why?" And I said... "Oh you look bored, is it too many details?" ! He said, "Bored is the last thing I feel!" and then made what appeared to be a conscious attempt at "I'm listening and interested!" face. I almost laughed, because I think it was a bit of effort for him, not one of the normal faces he makes but I managed to just go on with the story.

Funny that I can't for the life of me remember what I was actually telling him in the moment, but I can totally remember the face he ended up making!

So... yeah ask her! Even if she doesn't remember, I think her reaction will help you feel like it's safe to ask next time you notice something like that.
Thanks for this!
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