Hi Cocoa, welcome to Psych Central (PC)

Good move to share these stories with your therapist (t)

You asked "link between bi-polar II and BPD, or the misdiagnosis of one for the other, I'd appreciate hearing about it. There are articles that might be of interest
Psych Central - Search results for Bi-polar II and BPD

Right intentions to " I love the people in my life and want desperately to stop hurting them w/ my moods and behaviors."