may I ask you a question... are you located outside the USA? reason I ask is that in your post you use the term....disassociate.....to mean dissociate...

you see here in america the two words means two different things....

here disassociate (pronounced dis associate) means to purposely cause yourself to stop doing something, stop engaging in something

here in the USA it is the word dissociate (pronounced dis sociate) isthe automatic response to a trigger, whether that trigger is good or bad.

my point is when we post here on psych central there is no right or wrong way to post as long as you are following the rules of the site. everyone uses the wording and terms of their own locations and the like.

when I write my posts I do in the wording that is of my location and of this websites rules. but if you prefer when you read my post by all means include the phrasing that is of your location if that helps you to understand my posts better....for example when I come across the term dis associate in someones posts I keep in mind that they may mean the term dis sociate rather than my locations definition of dis associate.

that said in relation to my posting about "coming back" here in the USA that term is used to reference the original host. and here in the USA it is believed everyone has times when they are fully focused and aware, non dissociated. but it is also used in reference to the alters....

example when thelma was the one that enters the therapy session then a switch happened where Rainy came out during therapy, then after therapy session was over and someone needed to navigate the subway system (one of NY city transportation system) thelma "came back"

my point of my posting above was that here where I live and work it is believed that its not a therapists job to make sure someone has come back to the way they have entered the therapy session. that job is the responsibility of the host and their own internal system of alters. it is believed that the alters are there to do what ever cant be handled otherwise and a person with DID has had these DID type alters all their life, this internal system of alters has kept the body and the alters alive and functioning all their lives and will continue to do so. thats what DID is and how it works. So if a person/alter is able to get that body/alters through life and to sessions they can do so during therapy and after therapy ends too.