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Originally Posted by Hoasis
Thanks for all your replies guys! Interestign to see how people in here live their lives. There seem to be one common factor for most of us; family.
Could this be a trigging factor that we dont have a close relationship with our family? These are first and foremost the ones we "form" our personalities when we grow up. Take me for example; my mother and father have always been kind of antisocial, never dared to speak their mind, hide in group, never been vocal about anything, never expressed feelings to anyone but themselves. Personally growing up with this I feel it has shaped me in a lot of ways. Its not the only reason I am who I am today but growing up with an outgoing and social family I think I would have been someone totally different today. Whats your thoughts on this subject?
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I agree with a lot of what you are saying Hoasis. I think I would have been sensitive and introverted no matter what. But I definitely think I would have less social anxiety and better communication skills if I was raised differently
I'm the very shy daughter of a very shy mother. She was overprotective of me; I'm sure that is why I grew up to feel the world is a scary place & should be avoided. By the time I came along my parents never had friends over and we never attended anything socially. We certainly don't communicate well. We are all pretty passive- dropping hints and hoping the other will pick up on what we are trying to express.
A couple years ago in therapy I was working on assertiveness. I had so much trouble...I felt incredibly uncomfortable just stating my feelings, nevermind what I need or want in any given situation.
