Therapy for you.. yes yes yes.

My husband just could not understand what I was going through ( Bipolar).. Eventually I was able to get my husband to go with me to one of my T appts... My T was blunt and used easy to understand language, He made it clear that he ( my husband) didnt have to understand it all , but he either needed to be supportive or we needed to figure out how to end the marriage in the easiest way possible for both of us.

That was a wake up call to my husband... He still doesn't "get it all" but he is supportive whether I need to talk about things or if I just need my own quiet time and/or maybe some extra help getting daily things done.

Guys are "fixers" hense you husbands "stay on track and just keep on keeping on... Its there nature. My husband now knows he can't "fix" me , He can't fix me ! He "can" be supportive. Only "me" can stay on top of my self and use my coping skills and self care to manage through the rough patches I will indeed hit.

I hope that you can both come to an understanding that is supportive , respectful and loving. Marriages are always in need of tending , kinda like a garden.

Welcome to PC