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Originally Posted by BobbyDavis
Don't worry. You are not alone.
All of my best friends since I was a child have been women (including my first girlfriend) and with the exception one of my cousins and my female friends’ husbands I don’t have any male friends because I trouble trusting other men and feel more comfortable around women. Part of the reason for that is because my Dad was an abusive prick and all my old male friends didn’t want anything to do with me after they found out I had Asperger’s Syndrome, ADHD and OCD while my female friends were more accepting of it and it didn’t change the way they saw me. My sister has a hatred for men too after all the things our Father did to us and the only two guys she trust are me and her husband and my Wife has similar feelings from her past experiences and she says I am one of the few guys she trusts and the first guy she has ever loved.
I don’t mind not having many male friends though because my female friends have always been very supportive and loyal to me and I trust them with my life. They are all tomboyish in comparison to the girly girl type that only talks about fashion and dresses another member mentioned on the last page and we have a lot of things in common and my best friend and her girlfriend are like sisters to me. I am willing to be friends with other guys though.
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Sorry to hear that your former so called friends ditched you once they found out about your disability-
You're better off w/o people like that in your life! I think that a few former friends kind of ended up judging me and becoming more distant towards me once they found out about my depression and anxiety. So I will never ever tell anyone about it again. Even if they have it themselves. People tend to be weird that way.
Anyways, you don't seem as you have any of the conditions that you mentioned above at all! You write really well, you're outspoken, empathetic, caring, and intelligent IMHO! Your friends and your g.f is lucky to have you in their life! It's great that you have such a great support system now!
I don't really get along that well with my dad either. He was kind of emotionally abusive back then and he can still be that way at times, so I try to avoid talking to him as much as humanly possible. He also has a hair trigger temper which makes being around him very unpleasant usually. Hopefully he won't be to much of an *** when I see him with my husband for Christmas.
As for friendships with men & women, I can be friends with both, but some women are hard for me to relate to since some of them do go on and on ad nauseam about their relationships, their kids, their husbands, themselves, and sometimes they just gossip to much about other people which is a big red flag for me to not trust them.
Some men can be annoying like that too though. I can't really be friends with most guys since it seems ask if all they want from me is sex, ugh! They won't take no for an answer. I have seen a few of them give me some funny looks, so I couldn't let myself get close to them as they'd probably get the wrong idea and think that I want them, lol! Guys in general tend to be more fun to hang out with. They're usually funnier and they usually make me laugh. Sometimes women whine to much about everything which sucks! Not all women do, but yeah, some do.