I would say you need a healthy dose of acceptance to improve this relationship.


He hates planning for weekends (not at all unheard of, I have a spur of the moment type bf myself) and he is painfully honest at times (example being disinterested in what you say) and again, not unheard of, I cherish my bf's bluntness, because it decreases any chance of misunderstandings....


Sooo, you don't want to leave him, then you have to accept that this is how he is, and stop setting yourself up for disappointment by continuously expecting him to magically behave differently.


Also, I agree with the advice above, if you're feeling short changed within this relationship, learn to give less. I know from experience its not easy, but I also know its ultimately worth it in the long run... You'll stop feeling so cheated and hopefully skip resentment, because there'll be more balance in the relationship.


If acceptance is not an option for you, then you'll have to entertain the idea that you guys are just simply incompatable.