This guy really has me stumped. Brief background, I'm 32, he's 33. Neither one of us have been married. My previous relationship lasted 4 years and we were engaged to be married. I broke it off because we weren't in love, and started my life over which included the completion of my Master's degree. I'm very independent and in no way do I feel desperate for love. I joined a dating site after I graduated because I thought now that I have more time it would be fun to start meeting people.

So I met him about 6 weeks ago on the dating site. He seemed very down to earth so I messaged him. He wanted to take the conversation off of the dating site right away, and we started chatting on FB and then over the phone. We went on our first date and I could tell he was just as nervous if not more nervous than I was and it made me uncomfortable.

I tired to put him in the friend zone after that, but he very sweetly insisted that I not close the door on him and give him another shot. Our second date was much more casual and comfortable, we really hit it off. We only hung out another couple of times before he asked me to be his girlfriend. I agreed, but it felt a little fast to me, in fact, at this time, he also told me he was in love with me. This was about a month into dating. Everything seemed ok, moving a little fast but ok, until the "in love" thing. To me, that felt like a red flag.

I believe he is sincere. In fact, he is extremely romantic. (Almost over the top, make me sick to my stomach romantic.) I've always dating men who I felt didn't appreciate me, so this guy with all his attention and thoughtful gestures makes me feel like a million bucks. (And I certainly feel I deserve such respect and kindness.) I find him to be very attractive too, which is just a bonus. The main problem is, he is acting a little obsessed. He does nice things but then tells me about all the pre-meditated thinking that went into each decision. He is smart and funny, and pretty deep too, but he is extremely emotional. He's already teared up twice in front of me this week, supposedly with tears of joy.

He also seems a little fixated on the sex. It's refreshing to have an open conversation about it, but he brings it up a little too often, and to me it feels like he gives the subject a little too much mental energy. (I get he's a guy, but… this feels unusual.) I like him a lot, but it feels like he is obsessed with me, and that freaks me out. He tells me about how his thoughts are dominated by me during work and that I "do things to his body" just by the thought of me. At first I thought he was feeding me lines but I'm starting to see that maybe he has a fixated personality. He did casually mention that he had gone to the doctor about possible OCD or Bi-Polar years ago. These comments didn't phase me because I have mental illness in my family so I do not judge or label people by it. But now I do feel that is is acting very obsessed and compulsive over this relationship.

I'm really just not sure how to deal with it. Am I crazy for not feeling so excited by a sweet guy who is really into me? I want to be excited, I'm certainly into him, but there is just something about how he acts that is sitting uneasy with me. I don't know, do you think he's just acting like a fool in love? So confused.