Thanks all. I don't have much of a circle to talk to and the friends I have are are in other states by phone so this really helps.

I've actually been staying with him in preparation for him coming back to Denver with me. I fly back tomorrow. Even so, I can still maintain distance. On the Saturday night, I'll let him stay home and play video games or go to his friends and you know what.....I'll go do my own thing. There it is.

The worst part is the blame shifting, being pegged as the bad guy when I get upset but he can mess up or start a fight and the next day I'm expected to be over it. But he will stew if he feels it's my fault. Double standards, I really hate them. I find myself apologizing to keep the peace.

I hate not giving, it's next to impossible as I love doing it. I find joy in taking care of him. What sucks is how little I'm asking for. Simple communication like picking up the phone, says hi, how are you, a smile when he walks in the door. Suggest a restaurant every once in a while and show respect.

Don't do what you got til it's gone I guess......