I am 20 years old and have struggled with depression for a good chunk of my life. Lately, it has been terrible.

My family constantly makes comments about me ranging from my weight to my character, saying I have no friends, comparing me to my brother who surpasses me in all aspects, etc. It puts me down more than I already am. The boy I've been dating for about a year finally cannot take it anymore and has offered me a place to stay when we are not away at school. We have figured it out financially that if he came and got me, leaving my car, phone, things that my mother pays for, I could do it easily.

My mother has controlled me my entire life even when I'm away and now there seems to be an out. Should I take it? My boyfriend and his family are willing to take me in so I have a place to stay and financial help when needed. They make me feel loved more so than I am at "home".

Do I go? How do I go about hurting my grandparents (one of which who is sick) and others who love me by just leaving? If not, what do I do since my mother will not rationally talk to me?