I wrote to the clinic's billing office asking to have their legal department contact me about this. I am supposed to provide medical insurance if my employer covers it (it does cover 80%) but it does not mean I should provide any information. So I asked them to deal with me directly and only bill him for 1/2 of copay. If he gets bills, the bills would say that this portion was covered by Blue Cross (a major medical insurance co in CA), this portion by mother, and this is yours to pay, basically. The bill only list insurance. It is the insurance CARDS that bear the name of the employer. So if the clinic agrees to this, I think it is problem solved. I will "forget" to update the LinkedIn profile; on FB I do not list employers, and all the documents submitted to the court can be covered by a thick black sharpie to conceal the name of the employer.

Since ex H claimed, last summer, that I violated his confidentiality by submitting to the psychologist who is doing the assessment of the situation with the girls a letter written by MY FORMER PSYCHOLOGIST TO ME (!!!), and did it under oath (!!!), I think a judge would find my request to go over employer data with a black sharpie reasonable.