Hello baseline: It sounds to me as though you have put so much time and energy into caring for others that you never took time to care for yourself. And, since you've always cared for everyone else around you, they've all come to see you as the stalwart person who's always there for them but doesn't need any care or comfort herself. As a result, you are, in essence, alone even though you may have numbers of family & friends around you.

We all need to be on the receiving end of caring and support as well as on the giving end. You have given, given, given until you have reached the bottom of what you have to give. Now you must find a way to replenish your supply. It may be that to hope to receive this from those you have cared for all these years is simply not possible, at least over the short term. They have come to see you as the strong supporter. And they cannot now allow themselves to become your supporters. If this is the case, then it means you must find your source of support elsewhere.

Some possibilities for finding your own source of caring and support might include: a caregivers' support group, individual therapy, a faith-based organization, or other similar activity that would provide you with the opportunity to be on the receiving end, as well as the giving end, of caring and support. Under any circumstances, my perspective is that, one way or another, you must find some way to replenish that reservoir of warmth and caring which you have drained taking care of everyone else. My best wishes to you.