Cremedelacreme, there are a lot of us like you out here! I'm hypersensitive, care too much, and to my recent discovery, very OCD about it all! A therapist I saw recently subscribed that I practice grounding when these situations arise - practice when triggered. I'm not good at practicing because I think I have ADD and simply forget, but when I have tried to do it in the face of being triggered, it has helped me move on....Here's a description:

https://www.e-tmf.org/downloads/Grou...Techniques.pdf