"people do what works" Dr. Phil

Your mom is playing the illness card because it works.

She played it when you had a girlfriend and look how that turned out.

Then again, she may be in actual pain. The pain of withdrawal. Her mental state may be so "twitchy" that the idea of not being in control of you could be resulting in an anxiety attack that is manifesting itself as illness.

Don't believe me?

I once heard the story of a woman in her 70's, who was a hoarder for going on 30 years. When her adult children tried to throw away a rotten, mouldy carpet, she literally went into convulsions. Her mind simply could not handle the thought of losing something.

I'm sure that there are many stories out there of a similar nature.

If your mom is truly sick, then take her to the ER. They will either find something physical ( in which case you did the right thing) or they may determine that her ailment is psychosomatic ( which will validate your assertions).

You win either way.

If she refuses to go, then chances are she is bluffing.

If she talks about wanting to die, call 911

Do not allow her to immobilize you at this critical point of YOUR life.