Me: 33, soon to be 34. Gifted Intelligence/mature. Daddy issues. Always attracted to "unavailable men". Haven't been able to get a date in 4 years that is anything but sexual, and I am celibate til marriage as a lifestyle choice. Frustration. Loneliness.

Him: 51. Lives in another country (though still accessible should situation warrant). Living unhappily in a dependent state in a common law/house mate set up. He won't tell her about me, out of fear of retribution which could cause him health problems as he's a shut in. He has many of the same ailments as I had until recently.

We: Have a great deal in common. Talk for hours at a time (3-8 hrs non-stop). We talk about anything (and I mean, anything). We cannot visit each other at present both because of health concerns. I have rarely had such a deep emotional bond with anyone in my life.

Red flags? Is this wrong? Romantic? A little too Florence Nightingale? Emotional Affair? Daddy Issues? (My father was a "non-present" father).

Would be great to get an outside perspective.... I can't imagine losing what I have with this person, even if there is no romance from it at all. I've met some of his friends via phone - we get along as well. It just feels like "home".

Thanks, J