hi sparky
it is unfortunate that your husband continues to place his family over you and your kids. it sounds like you have given up your life and happiness for his choices. what you have to figure out is if you are willing to give up the rest of your life as well. he is not going to change. welcome to psych central. you will find we have several forums where you can post about your concerns and receive feedback from other members. you will get a lot of support here. again, welcome