Maybe he says he "loves" you because you do everything for him??

Is he reciprocating any of the "courtisies" you have for him?

Don't beat yourself up thinking you suck at being a girlfriend. It's all a learning experience. You are uncomfortable with the relationship. You know what it is that you DON'T like. That should give you a clue as to what you DO like!

Tell him that you don't like what's going on. Maybe he's willing to make some adjustments. If he's not, then what he wants is "a mommy" or a maid and not a girlfriend.