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Old Dec 19, 2014, 10:53 AM
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Trust is so hard. And just having that discussion with the new t. In itself would be difficult for me.

Some question you might want to ask yourself:

Do you feel you connect with this T?

Do you think eventually you can trust this T and she trust you?

Did you interview this T? Or was it just someone in the same practice that picked up your retiring T clients?

If you dont feel you connect you can always stay with the t temporarily but at the same time reach out to other t's and interview them or do a get to know you meeting.
During these meetings ask how long they plan on staying in practice and any other questions or concerns you might have. I wrote a list of things down so I wouldnt forget. Because I get real anxious when I am sitting with a new t

I understand the trust issue and how hard it is.

I just terminated with my t. My choice and it was ugly...
Because I picked the wrong t and the connection was never there for me. It ended terribly. I made the choice to leave. But I still feel lost and abandoned.

After you come up with the list. Maybe if you feel comfortable enough with your current t. Maybe you can ask the t the questions or send it in an email or write it down and hand it to your t at the end of session and ask to discuss your questions/concerns at the next session

Those are just suggestions and I know easier said than done.

I just learned a very painful lesson about picking the wrong t. It is better for you to figure out now if you connect. Than a year down the road.

Hang in there I know the pain and anxiety of feeling you may be terminated. And the trust issues. It is better to find out now by asking questions then get yourself invested emotionally and then figure out that you may have a t who is not the right "fit" for you

I am sorry you were put in this situation. Hang in there
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“Even on my weakest days
I get a little bit stronger” - Sarah Evans

Wise words I am trying to learn to live by and will slowly learn to believe as I heal......


“The truth is, unless you let go, unless you forgive yourself, unless you forgive the situation, unless you realize that the situation is over, you cannot move forward.”
- Steve Maraboli

Last edited by Lady Lindsey; Dec 19, 2014 at 11:09 AM.