My husband is now dealing with his acoa issues. The way that it's is coming about is really hurting me. I feel like it is my fault that he feels the way he does. He has just now brought it to my attention that he doesn't like when I drink or the ways family drinks. I feel my whole marriage has been a lie. I'm having a hard time dealing with this. I'm scared to talk to him now that I have learned more about acoa. I feel lost and sad. I don't understand how you can one day say I don't like this, I never have after so many years. How does one change their whole life? Who do you do things behind someone's back, hurt them, and then try to make it a great relationship again? Why did this man marry me, start a family and now decide I need to make changes? HELP