I just finished going through this. At 31 I feel head over heels with a 60 year old man. At first he seemed like everything I wanted. He had this tough James Dean exterior that no one could penetrate and he also suffered from anxiety and was a loner...but he lived with a woman(his own age) for over four years after his house was foreclosed on. He reassured me that they were just roommates and she wouldn't care if we were friends. I spent hours talking, texting and holding this mans hand. I thought our emotional bond was perfect, my soul mate. Well once his girlfriend found out about our friendship she was very angry calling 24/7 and instead of him defending our relationship he was more concerned about making her mad and losing his free place to leave. He ultimately froze me out of his life. Will not respond to any texts etc. it has had a huge impact on my physical and emotional health. It was sad because with me he was allowed to cry and be vulnerable. I would have never left him. So emotional affairs can hurt you very very deeply.