Sounds like you're the one doing it all. I'd take the next available Saturday and lay down a few ground rules about eating, money, time, laundry :-) and that sort of thing. I think a lot of people, if they could get away with it :-) would do as he's doing. He may just not be aware. Sounds like you need to talk to him and see just what he's up to and wants to do about it. I think, whether he wants to be a "boyfriend" or not, that he probably wants to stay until he can move in with his friend so he's likely to change his ways to keep from getting thrown out? But I would lay it all out for him; your feelings, the chores, money and all and see what he has to say.