This woman is the one who had pushed you a bit out of your shell.
Let me tell something. Noone is normal. Really, noone.
Everybody has flacks.
From my point of view, love is what can made you to improve. Love for yourself and love for someone else. You have to begin by accepting yourself. Seeing yourself with compassion.
Why I can see you with compassion and you can't see you?

You don't have anything bad, what happen is that your nervous make a hell of you in social situations but yo can learn to cope better with it.