We've all felt it. That sort of click when we find something that perfectly encapsulates how we feel about our gender. And then later we find a term that fits even better. So you tell people, and they immediately pipe up with "Well I thought your gender was this now! You can't just keep switching!" To which I say Haha! Oh friend how little you know! See the true essence of gender!

Recently I've found I much prefer the term demiboy. As it fits me very well. I like masculine or neutral pronouns, and I would prefer looking more like a boy that anything else, while still maintaining some of my feminine side.

As I began exploring my gender, I've found that as you keep going, you'll find a more specific or less specific term to define yourself with. Or maybe you'll create something all your own.

Gender is a personal experience and everyone is different. Not every trans girl is a shining star of femininity. Some like to look more masculine, but they are still girls. And the term girl is what suits them best.

Some people are more broad in their sense of gender and use something more like an umbrella term, like "genderqueer".

Or their gender is in a state of flux at most times, so they're genderfluid. Or maybe they find that rather than fluidly moving through the spectrum, they go between two genders, so they find they are bigender.

The way it went for me was like this. I started off thinking maybe I was just a trans boy. At the time, it was me thinking I was an extremely gay trans boy, as I very much found men asthetically attractive. But as time moved on I found that 'boy' just didn't quite fit who I was. So I found 'genderqueer' to be a more accurate label. Around that time I also found out I was definately an aroace. So the label changed as I found out more about myself and explored who I was in that sense.

Now, as it stands, I'm still very much aroace. But I found 'demiboy' to be a much better word for the gender I experience.

I'm not indecisive. It's not me changing my mind on my gender over and over. It's just me exploring who I am and what I want from life and how I want others to see me and how I see myself.

So never let someone tell you that you can't change your mind. Your gender is yours and yours alone. And it's up to you to discover and explore it for yourself. You do it for you. No one else.

(Side note)
Golly that was a lot more text than I had planned! This was really just supposed to be a little inspiration bit for anyone feelin' down and look at it now! Heehee.