I've read through this several times and personally I'm hearing multiple things going on, there's not just one easy answer to your OP title.
First, it sounds to me like you're stuck in a cycle. You have a narrow set of expectations and once those expectations aren't met you push back. By pushing back, you alienate others. Then you want people, but keep those expectations so they aren't met and you push back again.
It seems like it starts with a wall. You lash out to hide your own hurt.
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... it's that people bore me or piss me off very quickly
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I swear I hate people, their all god awful lack anything I want to chat about, many times. I like social groups that aren't so small vision minded.
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You don't like being judged, but because of an open wound (whatever that is) you judge others quickly and immediately. If they don't fit that mold you want, as you said, you get bored or pissed off.
You can't stop sabotaging relationships until you get to the root of the problem and heal it. It's like an injured animal, it will lash out to protect itself. Whatever hurt it is, once it is healed you'll be able to start working on allowing others into your circle without fear of getting hurt again.