a lot of people stay in unhealthy marriages for the kids but this can actually be more detrimental. by not getting along you are modeling poor relationship skills for the children. they learn poor communication skills, poor conflict resolution skills and such. it is healthier to separate in a positive low conflict way and be good coparents. taking a coparenting class so that you can learn effective coparenting skills is helpful. then you can model a healthy relationship, positive communication and conflict resolution skills for your children. conflict in divorce is the number one most damaging thing on children, not the divorce itself. welcome to psych central. you will find we have several forums where you can post about your concerns and receive feedback from other members. you will get a lot of support here. again, welcome