I agree with kali, conflict is more damaging than the divorce, itself. It can model, for them, that they aren't obligated to stay in an unhealthy environment. If it's not a loving marriage, then it's not modeling a loving home.
It wasn't divorce, for me, as a child, it was the drama and dealing with being in the middle of parents needing to put their childs welfare ahead of their selfish needs.
Split time, two homes, eventually two extra extended families. There's something positive that can come from it, as a kid. Lesson, that if it's a poor fit, I wasn't their excuse. Gave me courage to leave an abusive marriage, during which time I learned it wasn't divorce itself.
My children are thriving now, tbh. They've developed perspective and communication skills, that would have been negated under the marital circumstances.

Know it's hard, there's light at the end of the tunnel.



Sent from my LGMS323 using Tapatalk