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Originally Posted by LaraHugs
1. the attraction of two people is chemical, called pheromones. people cannot (think) themselves into soul mate status ... they literally have to sniff their way to this status.
2. if a person cheats on another to be with you, then they will cheat on you to be with another. if this man is an emotional cheater, then this is in his moral makeup to do so, and so the next interesting person that comes along, he won't bat an eye to engage.
3. considering he is still with his wife, this means that she is his main woman. She is the one with a ring on it. That means you are disposable. If this man isn't coming across the big pond to come get you to be his, then that means he's not interested in "love"
4. there is a woman who is being used and abused, her name is "wife". when all of this is said and done, to whatever end it comes to - she is the one who will be emotionally harmed. so the question is: can you cope with being the abuser?
I would like to know why you only talk about what he wants. You say you want input, but, you never mention what YOU want or need. You only talk about what he wants/needs.
How can anyone provide you with sound and rational input if we don't know what you want, feel and need?
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I appreciate your input. The attraction is mental, spiritual NOT physical. We are soulmates and empaths to each other... having met in past lives. By chance, we met in this life and immediately recognized this connection. He is perfectly happy with his life.. his wife and family as I am. I respect that and do not want any physical connection with him in real life. I have a separate life here in the USA also. We've recognize our need to be connected emotionally as soulmates. The problem is that he can't sleep at night (obviously in bed with his wife) unless we are connected via phone. Is this morally wrong... ? I don't know. In the a.m. when he awakes, he wants me to stay online with him while his wife and he discuss issues and hav breakfast and take the children to school. He's included me in his cirlce of love... is that wrong? His wife is his lover and best friend and I am included as his soulmate. The issue of him wanting to masterbate on line confused me initially however, he said he would masterbate twice a day without me... however chooses to do it as a means of closeness with me. I don't understand this and is it sex? I don't thin so if he would do it without me. He and his wife have an active sex life... so this does not take away from that. Maybe this is his way not to cheat on her in real life... who knows.