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Old Dec 21, 2014, 01:02 PM
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Originally Posted by toolman65 View Post
"he suffers from depression so i let a lot of things go..." Are you sure you aren't telling yourself that as a way to rationalize his behavior? Making the depression a scapegoat for his actions?

Furthermore, by blaming everything on the depression, you may be giving him tacit approval ( a free pass ) to keep doing things that hurt you.
See I do think I do that sometimes. But anytime I feel frustrated with his behaviour I feel like I'm a bad person for not being sensitive to his situation. I get myself worked up over it all and end up giving up on what's bugging me and pin it to his depression. He did end up coming over last night. He was just difficult about it. And it was a really good night together, but again today he's distant. He is on medications atm and has been exercising, but he has told me he is at a low point right now. I'm just struggling to understand and don't always know how I should be responding.