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Originally Posted by Webgoji
Hmmm ... I'm just wondering out loud if that isn't a perfect reason you should go to that particular therapist. Speaking with a male therapist in a comfortable environment and being able to work through your problems there might be very beneficial ...
... or it might add so much stress on top of it that you never accomplish anything and come out worse than before.
Honestly you're the only who knows how that would go. Just a thought.  |
It could be a perfect reason, I can't say I haven't thought that myself. I suppose if I'm upfront with the therapist that I have issues with men then maybe he'll be sensitive to that. It's just that I have tried a male therapist before (regular talk therapy) and it felt like he spoke to me like I was a stupid little girl and I couldn't talk to him about my bad experiences with men then either. I guess if I'm not going alone and I have someone to "protect" me, it'll feel safer? I'm just afraid of being "surrounded by the enemy", as in me and two men. Obviously one isn't an enemy, but I don't know about the therapist yet. I realize part of my problem is that I assume all men are dangerous until proven otherwise.
Also, if this therapist is a guy, what's to stop him from just taking my significant other's side and turning him against me? I mean, the whole men sticking together and blaming women for everything? I'm not saying I'm entirely blameless, but I don't want my gender dictating how seriously my feelings are being taken.
My plan right now is to do some more investigation and look to see if there aren't any female therapists in our city that will work and if there's not, go to this guy and if that doesn't work, then go over to the next city to one of those therapists.