I do hear ya. I've worked most holidays, and prefer spending time making a difference for others. Love the volunteering idea! Workmates can be a great family. Now when I don't work on a holiday, especially Christmas or Thanksgiving, I feel lost. I aim to re-define holidays. Personally, i need to shut out all the TV advertising etc, and try to see the simplest beauty, and the smallest kind acts. It's hard, though. the weight of expectations can be heavy.