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Old Dec 22, 2014, 02:38 AM
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I know that it's very hard to be alone sometimes. Personally, I have always struggled with that part of life. In retrospect, however, I can now see how much stronger and healthier I was when I was a single young female adult.

I spent my time working (as a waitress) and exercising daily (going for long walks, jogs & aerobics) to boost my mood. It worked pretty well, actually. Whenever a man came into my life, things sort of went South for me. I (have) had a habit of picking unhealthy men. None were abusive, but my relationships just haven't been healthy.

I have a tendency to drop my little rituals and picks theirs up instead. Sitting around; drinking; watching tv frequently; etc. My point is that it would be a lot healthier to stick to your guns when you start seeing others. Continue seeing and/or talking with your friends regularly ~ DON'T drop your friends. {That's a biggie that most women are guilty of, like myself. } Continue working on finding your true interests in life and following that path. {That's another biggie for us women, but it also applies to men.} Sometimes, we get hooked up in romance, and we're having families of our own before we're somewhat prepared. This can lead to a lot of frustration, financial problems, as well as relationship and individual problems.

Focus on school ~ there are so many fascinating classes to take in college, I absolutely loved it!! Devoting oneself to college courses takes a lot of energy too, so that can help us get out of the lonely state of mind...imo.

I hope that I've given you a little something helpful to apply to your world. very best wishes sent your way.
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