I have new information about this situation. I am pretty unhappy about it and not sure what to do.

The first time my BF and I talked about it this year, he suggested that we just make a three day trip which included a visit to one of his friends who lives about two hours from his parents - so drive to his parents, spend a night, drive to his friend's house for the day, then go back to visit his parents that night. He also said we could leave the day after Christmas. I liked this plan and agreed to it.

He started having second thoughts. He wanted to go on Christmas Day, making it a four day trip. We wound up flipping a coin. I lost. I was mad at myself for agreeing to this as we have gone to his parents on Christmas Day five years out of seven.

So now the trip was drive to his parents on Christmas, spend two nights, drive to his friend's, spend a night, then drive 9-10 hours back home. I should mention that these driving times don't include rest breaks - this is just driving non-stop.

He said we could do something to get away from his parents the next day, but as I was sitting next to him while he was on the phone with his mother, he started saying that I wanted to do X, but it was too far, so we were going to skip it!

He also said that we were going to cook his family dinner, a special dish that *I* make for us at home, so you can guess who is signed up to cook dinner (and shop for all the ingredients and pack all the special tools needed to make it).

I feel really stomped on. Almost every concession he has made, he has taken away. The concessions he is making now are taking my family out to a nice restaurant on Christmas Eve (which I am pretty sure is not open) and going to my mother's for breakfast, which makes his mother mad since we won't get to her house for dinner until 8 PM.

I am upset. Listening to his mother on the phone made me even angrier - she is already trying to guilt trip him into staying longer. He has the whole next week off, so I'm worried it will work.

I don't know what to do. I may back out of going. I don't have access to a car when I am there and his parents live in the middle of nowhere.

Is it crazy to be making this much of a fuss over spending two days with people I don't like? I think it might be. I am just so angry that he won't agree to any compromise I suggest, like getting a hotel instead of staying with them. It's his way or the high way, and I feel like telling him to have a good time without me.