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Originally Posted by elin95
thank you so much for this answer, gives me some hope. do you want to tell a bit more about it?
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this stuff also stops me from getting other relationships with women from my age, because this woman is so in my head that I compare her to everybody. and nobody is as great, cute, and so, as her. obviously she's the greatest woman I have ever met, but it would be horrible to think that I never get an relationship with another woman because of her.
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If I told the details it might be identifying so I'll keep it generalized.
I met someone who was nice to me but not interested in me but I didn't know that. I fell completely in love and obsessed painfully and constantly. This went on for years. I was both joyously happy and miserable when I thought about this person which was my every waking thought for such a long time.
It was hard after a while when I knew nothing could develop. I still kept fantasizing. But as the years passed and I met other people (to fantasize about) and other things happened, I gradually thought about the person less. Until one day it was just over.
You will meet other people and you'll become interested in someone else eventually.