If you didn't want help, then why did you post your problem?

You can not complain that there has been a lack of response ;80 plus posts and counting.

several people, including myself, have made numerous suggestions of things you could try doing to improve your life. Some advice was soft, some was blunt, but any advice we give won't change your reality.

Only your actions will change your reality.

You ARE capable of action.

You came to this forum....action

You went back to the pool....action

You argued with your mother...action

you cut up your pool pass... action

You "caved" to your mother and gave her everything she wants....action

You have proved that you are capable of action. So why not keep going? Instead of taking 1 step in 10 different direction, try doing 10 steps in 1 direction.

Didn't it feel good to be getting responses from this forum? To start swimming again?

To see your friends and your girlfriend again?

I know you are afraid, but at this point, what have you got to lose?

Do you really want to spend eternity fighting with your mom?

Speaking of mom; i reread your last post and found something curious. " I told her to sell the car, because it's not mine......She tells me it is my car, and that i'm not selling"

Pulling a complete 180 in the middle of an argument. Only a child does that. "i want the car!", "well then, take it." "No!!!" In a sense ,you are both children, locked in a tug of war.The world has become one giant sandbox.

Up until this point i thought there was hope.

No more. grabbing at your keys and wallet. Opening your mail. Threatening your girlfriend. These are all acts of violence. FLAGRANT violations of boundaries.

This person will say and do anything, including harming you and your girlfriend, to achieve her objective.

AS long as you are near this person, I honestly believe that your safety is at risk. LEAVE. NOW.