This year was really bad for us. I'm pretty negitive right now sorry.

I never promise. It's to easy to end up lying.

Apologies when you hurt her. Get her a therapist they're dependable, accepting, trusted adults. Some days it's hard to just feed him but I'm honest. Ie. "I'm to scattered to help with homework. Can you call (stand in homework helper)? Do you want to go to to the libraries homework help hour? " Honesty is the best. Have her stay after school with her favorite teacher for help. Things are hard.

She may view it as lazy, unreliable but not to the point of her mother and she'll forgive you for being human. The super parent doesn't exist.