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Originally Posted by Brown Owl
I'm pondering over some things Artimis said in the thread about saying I love you. About how we don't really know our therapists, and that what we are feeling with them is a reflection of ourselves. I have angry feelings towards my T as well as postiive feelings too. Is this anger nothing about her, all about me? I feel angry in direct response to the things she says. Also I strangely feel deep postive feelings too (don't like to call them love). On the one hand the blank slate theory would say these feelings are all my own transferred feelings. On the other hand there is surely some real relationship going on in there too? She is a person who cares, and looks at me with deep caring eyes at times, she sometimes shares a few anecdotes about herself. There is surely some meeting of minds when we discuss things?
Any thoughts?
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That was me trying to work things out in my own head, definitely not an attempt at a definitive answer!
it is SO complicated, isn't it, this relationship we have with our t's? My t used that analogy a long time ago something about she holds up a clean mirror or something that reflects back to me my Self, but w/out all the negative filters that I put on my own viewing of myself, or something like that.
But I think there is some real relationship going on there too, it just has different boundaries or confines or something than any other relationship we have. I'm so confused about it sometimes. My t and I are going to be talking about this stuff on 12/31. You'd think after 3 years I'd have a better understanding of the relationship. But, sadly, I don't.