Whoa, easy toolman, yes you are right he "has" chosen "action" thus far. I am getting that he has not seen his mother like this before, it's taken him by surprise, I have not seen him say she always did this with him. Have you ever had someone surprise you like this? Well, I have and not only did it take me totally by surprise, but it took me some time to figure out what "actions" I could actually take too. He doesn't have a job right now, he is working on a very promising project and this just got thrown up in his face unexpectedly. Yeah, he got very frustrated and threw everything at his mother, well, I remember doing that myself too, and right around that age too, hmm, maybe a bit younger, but just the same I lost my temper and did a similar 180 thing, eh, we all can play that bad hand right?

Well, much of your advice is good, lets just keep encouraging him, he has already said he sees that he needs to make a change in their living arrangements as soon as possible.

There is a lot of good ideas/advice in his thread, he has a lot to think about, I can see it's taking time to process all this. It's tough to see a parent you thought you could love and trust turn into such a nasty manipulating dragon lady like this.