The abuse and co-dependence going on here is not getting better. When the dysfunction starts moving from emotional abuse to physical altercations, then someone must disengage.

Since the mother is so totally invested in the "ownership" of her son, i doubt she will be the one to back off.

I understand that as readers, we only have one side of the story. Perhaps her side of the story is totally different. Perhaps not. Unless she posts a response, chances are we will never know the whole story. Let alone where the truth lies. We can only work with what he tells us.

I honestly believe, based upon the behaviour of BOTH parties, that a physical separation is required in the short term at least.

Physical confrontations have a way of spiralling out of control. Especially when there is a powder keg of emotions behind them.

Opening some ones mail (which is a crime) to physically trying to stop someone from leaving....these are desperate acts, done by a desperate person.

At this point, it is all up to him.