Thanks for your suggestion. I was a little afraid that I wouldn't be taken seriously and I am very serious. The "host" or who I referal to as the Original isn't someone we know. There is someone who said she is willing to be the host/organizer but we sort of just met her. We don't know what she thinks or if everyone will trust her. She is smart and eventempered and that is good but we are not sure she can defend herself if she gets attacked. It's very confusing and tiring. My t thinks we need a host to move forward in therapy. We will take it slow and see if it is possible. Who ever it is won't be the boss just the who is the voice of reason. Thanks for helping me and I am sorry if I was unkind.