my T asked me a question today that was hard for me to answer at all . omg it so confused me .I ended up telling her that I would have to think more about it and write it to her in my journal because I was not able to say well what I wanted to say to her . the question was how can you expect someone who is loyal to you, such as your husband or I ,to white wash the abuse that happened to you . this was the question she asked when I told her that I wish that my husband was more tolerant of the mother . that it would make things easier for me. boy did that open a can of worms that I didn't mean to do. my T does not like the mother at all and has no problem saying so (on my behalf) neither does my husband .but neither seem to understand nor care how hard it makes things on me

how would you answer this question.