There is a book called Sex for One that is really good at helping women and men, but more so women learn about masturbating and pleasing themselves. Once you read the book and play, literally play with yourself, you will have multiple orgasms, very long orgasms and whomever you choose to share that experience with is going to love it. Don't be afraid to buy some toys. Vibrators and dildos are great. Try one penetrating and one for clitoral stimulation...you will flush all over. Yikes!!