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Originally Posted by lilodian4ever
Hey StbGuy, I've read quite a few of your posts, and I just want to say that I think you're a wonderful person with a golden heart and great values.
I can relate very much to your story because we think almost alike when it comes to women and relationships. We appreciate women.
Unfortunately, we are both victims of this world's way of defining gender roles and dating guidelines and whatever else should really be left up to us. So, we are brushed aside by women, and we fall through the gaps in the sieve !
I'm very tired so I can't write more this minute, but I will write more when I have the energy.
Till then, I just want you to know that you're an awesome lad, and that your heart's in the right place !  |
Thanks so much for your positive words, I really appreciate it very much, it means a lot to me.
I don't know what it is, but there must be some reason why women are rather special to me.
I mean, I know I don't tick the all right boxes in outward appearance, physical gifts and outward expression/body language, and I know it is that which is the measuring stick today, and so, OK, I don't measure up.
But, I can't help but feel for many women today. Many are abused, manipulated, ridiculed and controlled by their own "husbands", and the saddest thing I see is that women can actually accept this and say to themselves that it is probably how it is supposed to be, or they maybe deserve it in some way. That is truly sad. As a man that appreciates women, I wish there was something I could do for them, but as with many things in life, the onus lies with the sufferer to quit the suffering, to get out of the predicament he/she finds himself/herself in. That doesn't mean they can't request help, but it is often even that first step of requesting help/giving something a chance that goes by the wayside.
It's hard when you care about someone so much. I just didn't want her to get hurt some day. She was hurt already by another guy, and I could almost have predicted it was going to happen because I know those type of guys that just mess with girls always. But, I just had to watch because I knew she would've resented me even more had I tried to warn her. A snake is always the most intriguing and interest-piquing right before it bites you. Danger abounds and is hidden in most beautiful and alluring forms.
I guess all I wanted, after watching my the disaster which is my own parents' marriage, was just to do things differently, to base everything on love, and cherishing the one you love. I wanted to be a husband that she could be proud of, that she knew loved her 24 hours a day, 365 days a year, and told her so everyday too.
I don't know, but I guess I messed up in my thinking somewhere and I suppose I am just the proverbial nice-guy after all, what the dating "guru's" would call the "average frustrated chump (AFC)".
