It's not taken away from you as it is your choice. You can go against them and do as you feel right. Yet you are held back by what they say so I wonder if you know their concerns are valid and rather than grieving what they are taking away you should be grieving that staying in this unhealthy situation means you cannot do the things you desire.

Either way I understand the pain (sadly I do) that not having a child can cause and I send so much love.