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Old Dec 24, 2014, 10:04 AM
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Originally Posted by anxiousandlettinggo View Post
It's really hard for me to see through my own anxiety here, but it would seem to me that it would be better for her as well to let go of all ties to her ex.

Unless of course there's something I'm missing here, due to my anxiety?
I think what you are missing is that she has made a different choice than you would make or than you would prefer her to make. It is her choice, not yours. Neither choice is right or wrong. You can choose to end the relationship over this or to work on your anxiety surrounding this issue.

I remain on friendly terms with some of my exes. My boyfriend does as well. There's nothing inherently wrong with choosing to keep in touch with people.

It's possible your girlfriend still harbors feelings for her ex and wants to see the dogs in order to see him. It's also possible that she wants to see her dogs. Just because she sees her ex does not mean that she wants him back. I would try to look at this issue with a very objective eye.
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