Hi Ptang, Could you meet somewhere outside your home the first few dates or her place? This will give you time to get your place in some order. The love of a good woman should be good motivation for you. About your looks if you are who you say you are it shouldn't matter! We are all flawed in some way. Go for it! Take one day at a time and enjoy the feeling!!! Peace P.S Definitely clean up the house bachelor or not. If you clear away the clutter you will have room for the new experiences!